Sex is Power: The Other Woman Chronicles Pt. 2

10 Signs You are the Other Woman

Last week we discussed being the other woman. Remaining in relationships that are going nowhere. This weekย I am discussing how to stay clear of these kinds of relationships.

1. He only gives you his cell phone number.

2. At certain times when you call him, he does not answer, or whispers when you do talk.

3. You can not spend holidays with him.

4. You are always meeting him somewhere that others will not see you.

5. When he does come to see you, it’s mostly just about sex.

6.You have never been to his home.

7. In most cases, you never meet any of his friends or family.

8. He tries to pacify you with money and gifts.

9. He won’t answer his phone when you two are together.

10. Some cases, he can never stay with you overnight.

How do we stay clear of these kinds of relationships?

You have to first love and respect yourself. Know that you are worthy of honest and pure love. See the little red flags for what they are, the ones we sometimes look over. Have standards, and if a man can not meet those standards then keep it moving. You are more than a roll in the sack and only had to show from these relationships, are a ball spot in the back of your head from laying on your back too much.

Every-time you are emotionally and sexually involved with a man, you give a little bit of yourself away. You began to be what he wants you to be, and not who you are. This may sound blunt, but it’s a harsh reality. Sex is power and a cheating man uses that power to control you so that he gets what he wants. I was woman enough to be with this man and hurt is the wife who found out about us. I was also woman enough to get my life together and later went to her and apologized for my part. I know some of you may have a lot to say, but the Bible speaks on forgiving and going to your brother you have offended.

Sex is power and a cheating man uses that power to control you so that he gets what he wants.

I was woman enough to be with this man and hurt is the wife who found out about us. I was also woman enough to get my life together and later went to her and apologized for my part. I know some of you may have a lot to say, but the Bible speaks of forgiving and going to your brother you have offended. She forgave me and thanked me for being a woman.

Stop laying your self-respect down just to have a piece of man.

Stop playing the victim.

Start loving yourself and realize that you are not defined by a man.

Take responsibility for your actions.

One crucial thing to remember is, you reap what you sow and one day you may be someone’s wife.

Shanna A. Jefferson, MSW, LCSW, LISW-CPS is a Life Coach, Psychotherapist, and Author. (3)

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