Domestic Violence Awareness: It Is Never Ok. It Is Not Your Fault.

The month of October, Domestic Violence Awareness month which is approaching soon.

What exactly is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.

Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling. (NCADV)


Domestic Violence is more common than buying a new pair of shoes.

I am personally a survivor of domestic violence and endured verbal abuse as well. These situations take strength and power to get out of, but one must know it’s not their fault. In this situation  I was cursed, burned, slapped, called out of my name and a gun pulled on me. I thank God everyday I was able to get out. I know many have not been so lucky. Don’t continue to blame yourself for the actions of others, but notice and recognize the red flags.

There are so many women and men currently in abusive relationships and need helping relieving themselves from the situation. The victim should understand it is not their fault for being abused verbally or physically.

What are the signs of an abusive relationship?

Some women think  jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy is a way to control and manipulate someone in to doing what they want, by instilling fear.

Nearly 3 women are killed a day by domestic violence.

20 people per minute is being abused across the US. That’s an alarming 1200 per hour. Abuse most of the time is cause by someone close to you.

8 Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship

1. Extreme Jealousy

2. Controlling What You Wear

3. Controlling Who Can Talk To

4. Slap You

5. Punch You

6. Curse at You And Call You Names

7. Put You Down

8. Controlling Where You Go

These are all signs that you are in an abusive relationship or situation and you need to get out….Quickly!

If you know someone who is in a dangerous situation, don’t just sit back, Help! Get The Help You Need.

For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now.

Shanna A. Jefferson, MSW, LCSW, LISW-CPS is a Life Coach, Psychotherapist, and Author. (3)

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