Communication is vital to any relationship, and if it is lacking, your relationship is headed for danger. Communicate with your lover, and be very open with your partner because this will allow trust to set into your relationship. You want your mate to become your best friend and you want to be someone he can trust. Opening up will make him trust you and tell you things that he has never told anyone.
A relationship where you can sit for hours and talk about anything, or be comfortable enough in each other’s space for hours and talk about nothing is key.
I know that sometimes it is hard for us, as women to communicate especially if we feel like no one is listening. This can shut us down internally and it can make us start holding things in that, in fact, need to be said.
A key principle to live by is in Proverbs 15:8 (Amplified version) says: A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger appeases contention.
First, we have to check our tone to make sure that we are not coming off as harsh. This in itself will start an uproar. Second, stay focused on one thing at a time. Don’t go back and forth bringing up something so old that you both have forgotten and forgave. Let it go.
Miscommunication comes into play when couples stop understanding each other. No one is really trying to hear each other because no one is really listening, they are only trying to get their points across. Everyone is fighting to be heard, but no one is actually listening. All of the back and forth, arguing brings about frustration and unhappiness within the relationship. Dealing with miscommunication can cause heartbreak with all of the unnecessary kerfuffle.
Effective communication is the key to any healthy relationship, but understand that it does take time, practice, and most of all love.
James 1:19 KJV states: Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
We have to learn our men and their body language, when they wanna talk and when they don’t wanna hear it. You never want to come off as a nag because this will often times make the man feel like why bother. Always have a soft place for him meaning that it’s ok to be nice and loving. This will make him open up and keep him wanting to keep the lines of communication open.
Now, I’m not saying that you will always agree with everything he has to say but, make him feel like he is heard because you are listening. Don’t always respond without thinking and without hearing him out. Respond because you have thought about your answer and sure that’s what you really want to say.
Trust me when I say that everything will not always be cookies and cream. You will indeed have your setbacks and mishaps it comes with the package but, you will have to learn how to pick your battles. Every mistake or concern does not have to be a blow-up.
Communication works both ways but, remember you do teach people how you want to be treated. If he notices that you are not always yelling and screaming guess what, eventually he will stop all the yelling and screaming because he will feel foolish. It is a process and slowly but surely you guys will agree to stop fighting, and work on the solution to your problems.
If you are having issues it is best to always lay it out on the table instead of holding it in. The more you hold it in, the angrier you will become inside. You don’t want to lose focus and make yourself sick on the inside. Holding it in will cause headaches which can lead to different things.
If I can leave you with anything it would be a Bible verse.
Ephesians 4:26 AMPLIFIEDBe angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down.
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